Releasing Control to Liberate Oneself

Written by Mathew Naismith

This is another little discussion I thought I would share with you on SB; it’s about a person who keeps dreaming of lifting up but feels quite uncomfortable in doing so. It would seem that we need to take more control so we don’t feel this way but actually I feel we need to release any control we have to soar up freely without feeling uncomfortable about it.

http://www.spiritboard.net/showflat.pl?Cat=&Board=dreams&Number=119991&part=1#Post120201

Amy1022

I had another one of these "dreams" the other night. This time I just went up and tolerated the "lifting up" feeling although, again, I didn't like the feeling. Does anyone know whatr it means when you have these frequently? It seems I didn't have them for a while and am having them again. Someone mentioned something in my life that I may not be content about---and right now there is something going on that is kind of beyond my control and I am praying for the best of outcomes. There are some things that are topsy turvy and have been for several months. I guess this might have something to do with the dreams, but not OBE's?

G'day Amy1022

Controls a nasty little critter, recently I wrote up about the controlling ego, any control relates to the ego trying to take or keep control. The ego makes us feel inadequate if we don't have control, the little blighter.

Try telling yourself numerous times at any time that you don't have to take or be in control, see your arms spread a part from each other in front of you while you are saying I'm letting go of control because I don't need to control.

Spirituality isn't about control even at the human level it might seem that way, it's about awareness & the more aware we become the more control we seem to have; it's just becoming aware & has nothing to do with control I believe.

If you are able, while having this dream, think about releasing any control, it's extremely liberating however if you are unable to do this in your dream just do like I said before, tell yourself that you don't have to be in control. The nasty little critter of our controlling ego is trying to tell us to keep &/or take more control, just let it go.  Actually just saying I’m letting go a number of times while visualizing your arm letting go of nothing in particular should do the trick for you, your dreams should change after a while hopefully.

Note: It is important when visualising your arms letting go of control not to visualise anything in particular because this will detract from the effects of such visualisation. Our emotions & ego can make us focus on the things that are not necessarily what is causing us grief at the time.

Love

Mathew  

Quietness- A Supposition of Uncontrollability

Written by Mathew Naismith

Believe it or not spirituality isn’t about more control but less mainly because control denotes a controlling ego which sort of makes no sense especially when we need control to just meditate.  At the human level we are controlling & seems like the only way we can obtain anything which is going to be beneficial to us & at the human level of understanding that is true however spirituality isn’t just about what is at the human level.  Once we fall within our own quietness we are no longer just at the human level of understanding so in this state of consciousness is everything uncontrollable because we are not controlling ourselves?     

This is an interesting question because I can neither say no or yes to this question for the main reason once you obtain true inner quietness within oneself control isn’t needed which also signifies that the ego is no longer needed or even exists or shouldn’t especially if we are within a true state of inner quietness.

Again this is funny, because at the human level of understanding we think if one isn’t in control they have to be not in control, out of control, but that is what our human conscious understanding is telling us, in other words the controlling ego wants us to think there has to be a yin to the yang.  Once we start to experience true inner quietness there is no yin & yang’s believe it or not & this is why so many people have trouble understanding most concepts of spirituality & inner sacred quietness.  For these people to understand these concepts they need to beware of the controlling factors of the ego that the ego is telling us there has to be a yin & yang because we need control like to succeed in our endeavours with meditating for example.  Having knowledge of meditating isn’t what it’s all cracked up to be!!  

Knowledge is a controlling factor of the ego as well, the more we know the more in control we feel & at the human level of understanding the more we are able to do however because it’s still all about control we are not within our own quietness & it’s within this quietness we will obtain true control even when it’s not controlling in nature.  Most of the times while in this quietness we are quite more accepting than in our human state of understanding  & the more accepting we become the more quietness will befall upon us & of course the less we will use human conscious understanding on its own.  How do we obtain quietness without some form of meditative state?  You don’t but the less controlling we are about mediating the more successful we will be mainly because we will have no expectations driven by a controlling ego, just let yourself drift without any thought of control even of your own breathe.  It is also important to realise meditation isn’t about control just like spirituality isn’t supposed to be about control, we don’t meditate to take control but to release it.

The reason I said we will obtain true control  is that is what it feels like in this quietness state but not exactly alike mainly because there’s no big deal, the only reason we feel we have more control is we are more accepting mainly because there being no yin & yang therefore no controlling ego. There is an ego present however because one can’t be aware of oneself being aware without an ego telling us so however it’s not a controlling ego.    

Inner Peace

Written by Mathew Naismith

Inner peace is of the hearts core of our inner being for which we strive to remember in our daily lives, at times it seems so far away but in fact it never truly left us we left it in a sense.  Good examples of this inner peace are people who portrayed this inner peace without recourse because these people where sent here to redeem us from our own folly. These people with whom I am talking about are people like Buddha & Jesus for instance that had no desire to express such folly. This folly of course is referring to the way we allow the ego to control us without being aware of such control. These people were aware of the controlling factors of the ego therefore had no tendencies to express such traits. If you take away the controlling tendencies of the ego you automatically bring forth inner peace & yes it is that simple. What some of us are trying to do however is rid ourselves of the ego but all we really need to do is become aware of the controlling factors of the ego, that’s all.

So how do we know if the ego is in control?  Desire is a good one, if we desire, as opposed to need, this is usually a good indication of the ego being in control no matter what you desire however as I have explained in recent posts need indicates more often than not that the ego is no longer in control.  This is saying if we worked more on our needs instead of desires the less controlling the ego will be & the more inner peace you will experience & feel & the more aware you will become.

There is another problem some of us have that indicates the ego being in control, looking upon people who seem to you to be more aware or holly than you. The funny thing is when we consider the entirety of all of what consciousness is people like Buddha & Jesus are the norm, they are not looked upon in grace but just as another energy form who is expressing inner peace however in realities controlled by the ego we see them as being above ourselves.   Just because we are expressive of the controlling ego doesn’t make us any a lesser person just ignorant of who we really are. People like Jesus & Buddha weren’t just sent here to show the way away from the controlling ego but show us who we truly are in the flesh so really all we need to do is know we are just like these people in whom we egotistically revere. 

Spirituality-Inquiry v Silence

Written by Mathew Naismith

Amended: I have inserted additional supplements to this post in bold letters to better describe the difference between inquiries for our desires & inquiring for our needs, I will also give a real life example of inquiring for our needs. Also at the end of the post I will add another additional supplement pertaining to our hidden ego tendances.  This is the problem of trying to keep the posts short which I won’t try to do in the future; I will just let it flow.

It’s funny how one kind of topic keeps coming up around the same time, it must have something to do with that synchronicity thing again!! The topic in question is inquiry, is or should spirituality be based on inquiry? Well I don’t think it should be but many spiritually aware people think otherwise including a science minded bloke on a Noetic site I’ve recently been conversing with  so are people like myself wrong especially if you think, if we are not inquiring we must be of blind faith & is it blind faith not to inquire? We must also think here there is no right or wrong in spirituality because spirituality isn’t about judgment so any form of life/ideology one chooses to live by is just another form of existence.

I had a bloke say to me about this subject that Jesus made inquiries, how else is one to know about oneself? Inquiries are by far not the only way to gain awareness & wisdom, sitting within one’s silence is another way.  It’s all to do with sitting within your own quietness, Jesus didn’t need to inquire about anything once he started sitting within his own quietness, everything he needed to know just came to him. Ask yourself, how often does this happen in our lives? It’s happened to me a number of times, I would have spiritual experiences out of the blue without inquiry but once I started asking question the experience desisted.  Once you fall within your own quietness there is no need to make any further inquiry, what is needed just comes to one within this quietness/silence however if we desire to know more we cease within our quietness. A need denotes silence but a desire denotes noise, spirituality in my mind isn’t about noise but silence.  Needs also usually denote control of the ego because we are only spiritually feeding our needs however desires are a different kettle of fish. To desire is to inquire to feed our controlling ego. Don’t get me wrong here, there is nothing wrong with feeding the ego through our desires it’s just another way to exist that’s all however it’s not really what I would call spiritually minded.  Yes we can become spiritually aware through this process but it’s the long road around in my mind because you’re not always expressing yourself spiritually, spirituality shouldn’t be about any sort of desires I believe.

Let’s look at this another way, what do spiritualist in India do to become enlightened? They sit within their own silence for hours, days & even years on end to attain this enlightenment/awareness, this sounds like they are inquiring but there not. At first they inquire but it’s only for a very short moment in their lives, once they have fallen within their own quietness only then are they able to know & understand to help them reach enlightenment. This also has a lot to do with suffering as well because within this suffering one will accept all that will come before thee for ever after.  Spirituality isn’t or shouldn’t be about desire but about the acceptance of all & only through the acceptance of all is one able to find true enlightenment; we are in fact talking about a need here not a desire.  “The need to suffer in silence to attain true enlightenment”. 

I would also like to enumerate here that one can also inquire for a need as opposed to inquiring for a desire however there is a fine line here. One must beware of the difference between a desire that is controlled by the controlling ego or a need which isn’t controlled by the ego. To give a better understanding of this I will use a real life example.

I was helping out a lass from Cambodia in various ways, I should mention here it was all above board, anyway she wanted to fit in over here in Australia so she tried to become a Christian. After a few months she came up to me baffled about the ideological concepts of Christianity, she wasn’t happy with it at all so I suggested she stick with what she was comfortable with which was Buddhism. I gave her a book about Buddhism so she could make further inquiries to what she wanted.

In this case it wasn’t an inquiry of desire but a need which wasn’t controlled by the controlling ego. Let’s look at the same scenario but in reverse which is driven by desire not a need. Having a desire to fit in, this lass would have kept making inquiries into Christianity until she herself psychologically accepted these ideological concepts that she was obviously not comfortable with in the first place. This is a desire to fit in which is controlled by the controlling ego. She is to this day quite happy with her choice in not egotistically fitting in.        

However all we are doing is talking about the individual self, what about the collective self, does it too have to suffer, not only suffer in silence but suffer the consequences of the controlling, very noisy, ego to attain enlightenment collectively?  What is above is also below; yes of course the collective has to suffer as the individual self does.  There is also another matter to consider here, why would a soul keep choosing to live within a harsh environment for no reason? We must remember here it’s never about the human vessel but the soul; we are living for the soul soles purpose in reality not our own individual selves. 

This brings us back to blind faith, if were not inquiring all of what we know through silence, our own quietness, is built up on blind faith obviously?  Anyone who has experienced what silence can bring knows it’s not of blind faith however it is understandable anyone who is not of their own silence would look at any awareness/knowing gained from silence being of blind faith.  Anything not detectable by any of the five senses is usually deemed as being of faith only but what are the five senses controlled by?  The controlling ego of course however one can control theses ego tendencies brought to us by the five senses by just taking control of the ego instead of the ego taking control of us. All we need to do is be aware of the controlling factors of the ego & yes it is that simple because all it takes is awareness & the ego will become dysfunctional in its controlling factors quite automatically.

If this or any one of my posts or in fact anyone’s post has upset you in some way you must look within you to why you are feeling this way not look at other people’s perceptions as being wrong in some way. In my case, concerning this post, some people might be offended by me relating the ego to desires, why are you offended by this? It wouldn’t be you don’t want to be seen expressing a lowly human trait like the ego in anyway is it or is it just by expressing anything deemed lowly or unacceptable makes one less spiritual.  If you think on this, what is controlling these thoughts of being a lesser person if we express a lesser valued human trait even when they do help us on our spiritual path?  Interesting isn’t it but don’t worry about not seeing how the hidden ego fools us because it took me years to realise this!!

      

Within Thy Silence of One’s Presence

Written by Mathew Naismith

Sitting within one’s own silence doesn’t just silence the mind but all of oneself in its entirety unless of course you can’t sit within one’s own silence silently enough because of traumas or worries of some kind. Once we start controlling our emotions instead of them controlling us we will begin to notice the silence even when in a busy place because it’s theses emotions from traumas & worries that stop us completely falling in total silence. After taking control of our emotions we can then go within our own silence without even worrying about thinking because we know once we take control of our emotions not thinking comes easy & in actual fact after a while one will automatically slow down the thinking process because most of what we think is emotionally based.

Just think for a moment, what isn’t emotionally based? We know hate & love are emotions & grief & joy are emotions but what about when we think about what we are going to do the next day in our jobs for instance or figuring out how  & when are we going to to pay for the painting of the house, these thoughts also stir up emotions of one kind or another. We allow these sorts of emotions to run our whole life & at times stressfully so which of course isn’t very productive in allowing ourselves to fall into our own silence, what if we took control of our emotions which will allow us to fall within our own silence ? We would then allow silence within ourselves to control our lives instead of our emotions controlling our lives; I wonder which one is more beneficial in the long run for us & everybody else around us?  It’s an amazing feeling once one starts taking control of one’s emotions, it’s pure utter freedom.   

With our busy hectic life styles these days we find it hard to stop our emotions running our lives but all one needs to do is take control of our emotions for a few minutes of the day to start the process of sitting within our own silence. Don’t try to stop thinking if we are still allowing our emotions to run our lives as this will only work to the extent our emotions allow it too, not what we want it too.

To be in the presence of someone in total silence is knowing without a word spoken, I will explain.  Someone of this calibre won’t have to utter a word in your presence of what you came to them for, its works like telepathy & in fact that is exactly what it is. The whole atmosphere is alive around these people, one only has to think of something or a question without murmuring anything & an answer will come into be known to you without them murmuring a word as well.  Are these people of divine nature? No but they feel like it. They are people who have learnt to control their own emotions, that’s all.  

These people are very conductive to meditating as well, if you have trouble meditating just being within the presence of one of these people allows one to mediate a lot easier because like I said the atmosphere around these people is quite electric, as if it’s alive & I mean really alive. Spiritual healers have the same thing happen to them, the more detached they are from their own & everybody else’s emotions the more the atmosphere around them seems to come alive. However there is a difference between a spiritual healer & someone in total silence within oneself depending on the type of healing being used, the more hands on the healer is the less silent they are.  Yes even waving one’s hands over the body isn’t being in total silence, we might be not literally talking through our mouths but we are still talking through the use of our hands, this of course doesn’t take away from the healing process just that it’s not total silence.  It’s not easy to heal in total silence.

Can these people who are in total silence also heal? Silence gives them control without having a need to take control, the silence takes control of the atmosphere all around them & if you are within that atmosphere for sure they can heal but in total absolute silence. It’s as if an angel has touched you & this is why we make the mistake in putting these people up on pedestals when they don’t want or can’t see it’s warranted for them to be put up so high above all others.  This sort of action to them is usually unwarranted to them so they keep quiet within themselves & to themselves usually. They can see they are only in silence & that is the only difference between them & everybody else who usually has a need to put them upon a pedestal when all they want is to live within their own silence.