Showing posts with label mother. Show all posts
Showing posts with label mother. Show all posts

Sunday, 9 July 2017

For The Children Come First

Written by Mathew Naismith  

Mother's, I need your assistance please.

Do the children make the mother a mother?  Considering a child isn't a child without a mother, is it not the child who makes a mother a mother? Also, is not a mother only a mother when of a child?

Without a child, is not a person only of a person when not of a child, meaning, not influenced by a child maternally?

The reason I query this has to do with how numerous spiritually aware people put themselves first and foremost. For example, it's about themselves feeling good over and above other people who are suppose to be less aware like a child is.

It's funny to think, but it's the less aware child that makes a mother a mother, and of course, the child always comes first for the mother, especially above any personal feel good sensations!! 

Note: If any mother's replies to this, it is likely I will insert their reply in one of my posts for my blog unless otherwise stipulated. Also, names will be excluded unless otherwise stipulated.


What is one of the major mistakes of churches? The church comes first and then the hierarchy and then God and maybe the people of the church.

What is a church without it's people? Like a mother, a church is not a church without it's people like a mother is not a mother without a child. Maternally, the unaware child comes first. Now what is occurring in Westernised spirituality today? The mother or the church is still coming first and foremost. The church in this case being ones own personal well being and pleasure/desire. As long as the mother/church is well and feeling good, this will automatically pass onto the child. Of course in this case the child would be lucky to come second, most often other hierarchy of the same awareness level comes second, where does this leave the child that makes the mother/the church?

So what is the aware without the unaware as what is the church without it's people or a mother without a child? As of the true spiritually aware, the unaware comes first, look at people like myself who really put themselves out there because it's not about ourselves and our own well being. It's almost maternal if not maternal, the child comes first.

As within myself, my child, my unaware state, comes first for it needs to be nurtured, not put on a list that it comes second best to all else, particularly in relation to my desires and feel good sensations. Yes, people like me could just sit within our feel good desired states and ignore all these deemed negatives, dark and toxic energies but we don't, for the children come first and foremost.

The child simply represents an unaware state that needs to be nurtured, mothered, for the mother is not a mother without it's children. What is the yin without the yang? Basically, what is the aware self without unaware self? Would we judge our children as toxic or negative and then ignore them because of these judged vibrations? Of course this occurs in certain situations when the maternal mothering instinct isn't present. We are supposed to be one; there is simply no oneness without maternal mothering instincts. Ignoring the child, the people of a church, the unaware self, because we have judged it so in accordance with our own personal level of hierarchy, is not oneness or maternally mothering, it's simply a depiction of an ego in control.

Too many spiritual teachings these days teach to put the self first and foremost, it all starts from you when it's the children that make the mother a mother. We spend all the money and time on our personal selves, when all we need to do is simply put the children first above our own desires and feeling of self-gratifications. If we spend all this time and money on ourselves to feel good, this has to benefit the rest of the world in the long run as this will flow on. Of course while we are doing this, we are neglecting the children by judging them toxic, negative, bad, dark, and on and on it goes. Yes indeed, what many spiritually aware people have expressed has been passed on; the world at present represents this.

Yes, without the mother a child can't be a child, so the mother must also be mothered by these same motherly instincts, but at no point should the mother be put above all else but this is exactly what is occurring in spirituality today to a large extent. Only a perfect balance between the child self and the motherly self can true peace and love reside. Neglecting one over and above the other will create anything but peace and love, only a falsified and fabricated peace and love. One is infinite, the other finite, we are both and not of one or the other as we are the child and the mother, the church and the people, the aware and unaware.

People like me are simply aware that we are just as much of the aware as the unaware, the child and the mother without neglecting one over and above the other.

Did people like Buddha face their own ego or the ego as a whole, as one entity?

Do not the children of a mother naturally quell the ego within the mother?

Focusing all this energy on the self to feel good while at the same time avoiding what is deemed as toxic/negative is pure ego. No, it doesn't start from the self, the (I); it starts from the collective as a whole, as people like Buddha eventually find out.

As not all mothers controlling egos will be quelled, not everyone will be able to face the controlling ego face on without acceptation; the ego has simply too much control, it is wise to be aware of this in my mind.

It is wise the child comes first before the ego.........Mathew G


If you are interested, the following replies to my request from mothers are as follow. The mother in all of us has a lot to teach as the child has to learn, but are we willing or ready to listen to child as yet, basically, learning from and through the unaware, something a lot of us critically judge??

Mathew....I found the Divine Mother Within.... there is the perfect vibration of mothering within us all.... and I think when that Vibration becomes or is Remembered then One would act in accordance with exactly how Devine Mother would act... there is no room then for egotistical actions... Thank you for asking!!....btw....I have Mothered 13 kids in this life time.

Hey so here's my answer.... If answer is this. Spiritually awakened people realize that their children come through them not to them. The spiritually awakened person knows the child has a closer connection to source because of their innocence and lack of cognitive dissonance. The spiritually awakened person knows they are here to guide and also learn from their children. Understanding that there is no right or wrong but an observation of the contrast they see, hear, and feel and then choose the perspective of the person they want to be. Before coming into this physicality the child knows what he or she wishes to experience and will choose the parents that will guide them in experiencing it.


Motherhood makes one whole. As Heath Ledger put it, parenthood is an extension of oneself the knowledge that a small being was borne from the union of two people is a miraculous event; that one's blood runs through the veins of another. One's life changes immediately. However, even if you are not a mother by bearing another, you can still give those qualities to others and feel whole in yourself on a different level.

My Reply
Yes, it's all to do with the maternal instincts; you express this quite often Susan even though you are not an actual mother yourself. Are gay people negative or toxic because they express themselves different to ourselves? Are children toxic because they express themselves different to adults? Same thing in my mind. Once you embrace instead of avoid, you have become the maternal mother.

I certainly appreciate your response here Susan, thank you.

I give thanks to all the mothers within for your participation here, most appreciated, as I needed assistance in expressing deep seated maternal instincts over and above the controlling ways of the controlling ego.  

Saturday, 9 April 2016

The Demise of a Mother

Written by Mathew Naismith

The topic for this post is in relation to my mother who has recently passed on, what was most interesting is the way my mother past on and my involvement in her passing. Don't get the wrong idea, I didn't physically or even mentally help my mother pass on or over, you could say I spiritually helped my mother pass on.

You could also say this is a personal matter, I shouldn't be writing about this especially so soon. In no way is anything we do personal, yes, any consciousness that is unaware will presume we have a personal life, this is mainly due to such consciousness not being aware of any other life existence to any great extent but what influences them personally. Our own personal existence deludes us to think we have a personal life, a separate life that is unknown to all other life existences, however, people like myself know better. There is no such thing as separatism, meaning, everything of consciousness is connected. It's funny how realities of time can delude us to think we have separate personal lives.   

If I was to think that I have a personal life, everything that has gone on prior to my mum's demise would traumatise me, probably for the rest of my life. It's been a very rocky road, meaning, life has been anything but pleasant within my immediate family, this was mostly due to a singular person having destructive influences over a number of my family members. To make things worse, this destructive mentality assisted in my mum's demise in a grueling way, it was by no way easy sitting back only being able to observe what was going on. However, in the end I stood directly behind my uncle who died at 13 years of age waiting for my mother to cross over, basically, enticing my mother to ignore her fears and grievances so my mother can make the final journey and pass on/over.

What I didn't realise, until that point, is that my mother never really experienced any extended period of contentment and a truer form of love in her life. If you are unable to find contentment in life, it is unlikely you will experience a true form of love in your life. My mother was utterly surprised after her demise, so much contentment and love filled her whole being, a contentment and love she herself didn't know existed within her all her physical life.

What happens to this love and contentment is that we allow life experiences and circumstance to condition us to life, this is instead of learning from these experiences and circumstances in life. We tend to, at times, take life experiences as a trauma instead of just learning from these experiences. In this case, we often create life regrets and grievances when these regrets and grievances never had to exist in our lives to start with.

My mother had a tunnel in front of her that was blocked by a roaring train that then turned into a large snake. My mother was extensively influenced by a person who instilled fear in my mother for a great number of years of her life. This instilled fear in the end made my mum's final day quite harrowing, it's wise to be aware of this. Just be aware of how your own environment is influencing you.

My mother in her final days also pictured me floating about in thin air, she asked me what I was doing floating about like that. It wasn't what my mother said, it's how she said it, it was like she had already crossed over with no regrets or trauma of any kind at that exact point.

We of course could say, neurologically, that my mother was having delusional episodes due to the lack of blood to the brain cells for example. Indeed this would be correct if our minds were only our physical brains but there not. When the physical brain dies, the mind no longer thinks in terms of physicality, it basically goes back to the way the mind was before it became the physical brain. We can however experience delusional episodes while the mind changes from a physical state back to a non-physical state, this is due to the transitional experience from one kind of thinking to another. Not every consciousness completes this transition either, ghosts are a good example of the mind wanting to stay with the thinking modes of the physical brain. However, don't think that everything a dying person says is just ramblings brought on by delusional episodes, it's all to do with the way they express themselves.   

All I am saying is be aware of how your environment is conditioning you, this in the end will help your transition to run a lot more smoothly and peacefully. If you learn from your environment, instead of allowing your environment to condition you, your own transition should be smooth and peaceful. One more thing, let the mind transition into a non-physical existence, just let go of all that is of physicality, this is unless you have a preoccupation with all that is physical, it's really up to you in the end......