Written by Mathew Naismith
I’ve personally written this post for my avid readers of my
blog hoping you might understand better than most what I’m about here; the totality
of acceptance is accepting non-acceptance in oneself so one can accept this in
others as well & releasing control as opposed to taking or keeping control which
this particular post is more about. Non-acceptance you could say denotes
control & acceptance of all denotes releasing control but like I have
written up in previous posts it’s really all to do with desires as opposed to
needs if non-acceptance is of control or not.
Let’s look at the human traits we don’t like about ourselves,
do we just keep acting out traits we don’t like because they are unbecoming to
us & others or do we just accept them & continue them even if these
traits hurt others in some way? We discontinue them which seem to denote
control would it not? Actually not necessarily because it all depends on if we
are doing it for a desire or a need keeping in mind the controlling ego will
nearly always try to tell us it’s for a need when it’s of desire. Desire is
more of control & a need is more of survival. Releasing control however is
not being even concerned if we survive or not, this is not easy for a human to
do mainly because of he’s ego. The ego is telling him he must survive no matter
what & that is exactly what we are doing today. This is where my recent
posts about thinking immoral instead of thinking mortal could help with
releasing control. Yes this all sounds daunting so that is why I’ve added a few
links that might hopefully explain how simple it really is to let go of being
controlling or of being controlled.
Extract: I’m bossy. Have been since I was a kid. I
like to direct things. I keep a clean house, tight schedule, and clear
objectives. But, this isn’t necessarily something to brag about. Too often,
when we are moving with a mission in mind, we move out of the moment and begin
to micro-manage people and things tweaking the details to control outcomes. Not
smart. In fact, it’s not even possible. To think that we can control things,
means we are rooted in an illusion. Instead of seeing life as it actually is,
we get caught up in how it ought to be.
Extract: By allowing everyone and everything in your
life to be exactly the way they are, you allow yourself freedom from the chaos
inside you. You don’t have to be super spiritual to make this change in your
life.
Is this saying we should accept everything the way it is &
not be non-accepting of anything? Being non-accepting doesn’t mean you’re going
to change anything it just means one has a need to be non-accepting of circumstances
that are unbecoming to ourselves & others around us however when change is
needed, as opposed to desire, need represents survival in some way either mentally
or physically. Living for a need instead
of a desire is sort of between control & releasing control all together,
you could say this represents a balance between the two. Living for a need is releasing control of
the controlling factors of the ego which is what this post is about; all we are
living for then is survival which implies that the ego is no longer in control.
Some probably have a need or desire of going further to release control
altogether, this can’t be done in time because to release control altogether we
first need to stop desiring or needing to release control altogether, it’s a
paradox because of time.
This is where being accepting within its totality comes into
it which also includes being accepting of our non-acceptance at times as well.
I am accepting of my controlling ego, at times, of living for a desire instead
of a need, this isn’t about releasing control so I’m contradicting myself here?
No not exactly for the main reason I am aware of the controlling factors of the
ego & I don’t see a wrong or right because in timelessness there is no
right or wrong. In actual fact I’m not contradicting myself at all because
there is no right or wrong however in time there is. Is it wrong to be expressive
of the controlling factors of the ego? In time it doesn’t seem so for many &
it can’t be wrong in timelessness either because timelessness has no wrong or
rights so why not just be egotistically controlled altogether if there is no wrong
in this?
Some of us in time have a will not to be so expressive of
these ego traits & to do this we should become aware of the controlling
factors of the ego to release this control within us. So what about everybody
else who wishes to express such egoist controlling traits? In time they seem
wrong to us who wish not to be so expressive of these traits but there is no
right or wrong, only in time is there a right & wrong which again is ego controlled.
It’s a paradox because of time once again.
If we thought
immortally would we have these paradoxes? The answer of course is no because we
wouldn’t think in time which gives us judgement therefore there would be no
right or wrong & no paradoxes. To be in timeless thought would also mean far
less control quite automatically, if there is no right or wrong what is there
to control? You become totally accepting
within its totality only because you have become non-accepting of thinking in
time remembering being non-accepting is also accepted. You can’t be totally
accepting if you don’t accept being non-accepting as well.
The following link is quite interesting as well only because
I relate to it so much like, “The ego in
you will almost always deceives you by creating the feeling within that, if you
let go, life will unravel...you'll lose control...even great and terrible
things could occur”. Fear unravels us & to take some sort of control of
fear we rely on knowledge for an example which seemingly gives us control over
fear, the fear of knowing less than others or not knowing enough to support
ourselves financially. Is this saying anyone gaining knowledge is fearful &
controlling? To an extent yes however this is where a need comes into compared
to a desire, if we are gaining knowledge for a need that far less denotes
control & fear than if we gain knowledge for desire I believe because fear
is controlling, a need isn’t .
This post also explains about faith, “What it does do is reveal a lot about the lack of faith...what really
is the driven-ness of fear within that person who mistakenly thinks they are
being faithful when all they're really doing is disguising their fear with
platitudes that sound faithful”.
Attaining faith can also be of a controlling thing or not again
depending on what’s the driving force behind us attaining faith either it be of
desire or of an actual need remembering if we are in a place we don’t want to
be in & we see faith as an escape from this that is more to do with desire
than a need.
Recently I came across yet another new age spiritual concept
mixed with old religious concepts & beliefs that is more about control than
releasing control because it was all about escaping from a prison. I would like
to inform my readers here today that any concept or belief that entails fear in
anyway is of control in my mind as fear denotes a lack of control so all we are
trying to do with this kind of faith is take back this control.
This post also tells the story of monkeys caught in traps that
wouldn’t let go of bowls full of rice, if they did they would no longer be entrapped.
It describes how we are the same & all we have to do is let go of the goodies
to become no longer entrapped. I think if we, while meditating, spraying, chanting
or whatever, think about releasing control before & during these spiritual
practices releasing from being controlling will become a lot easier.
Is this post urging us to become detached from our attachments?
No & yes because again we should ask ourselves honestly is our attachments
of desire or need? This doesn’t mean a desire or need for ourselves either but
of others & everything around our whole environment, for example we are
destroying the environment at an alarming rate because of desire, it’s not an actual
need but we lie to ourselves & say it’s for a need. Lying is but one of many
attributes control has given us, all we need to do to correct this, if we want
too, is just release the controlling factors of the ego & this is why I
have added three links to other posts/sites that will hopefully allow you to do
this. Happy releasing.
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