Written by Mathew Naismith
Embracing fear sounds ridiculous because it sounds like we
are endorsing fear within ourselves instead of ridding ourselves of fear
however that’s not actually the case. Evading or fearing to fear is actually more
about endorsing fear than embracing fear, once we stop fearing to fear we are no
longer influenced by fear itself. By evading fear, like fearing of being egotistically
expressive for example, is still fearing because we are afraid of being seen as
egotistical in any way especially if we are spiritually aware. Spirituality brings forth a lot of fears and
it’s how we handle these fears if these fears are going to continue to be unbecoming
or not to us.
We are taught, through numerous spiritually oriented books
and workshops, to expel our ego traits which of course fear is one of these
traits, haven’t we just judged something being of the ego and isn’t judgment a part
of these ego traits? You can see we are not getting anywhere by fearing these
ego traits in any way in the first place, yes we are feeling better for
expelling these traits but we still fear these traits consciously and/or subconsciously.
Any human trait we judge exemplifies the
fear within us, judgement denotes fear however I should point out here that there
is a difference between judgment & being aware.
I’m aware that judgement is brought on by us fearing, is
this not judgement as well by judging judgment of being brought on by fearing? As
soon as we categorise a human trait we have made judgment however by being just
aware of these human traits without categorising these traits is only being
aware without judgement. It would seem
that by linking judgement to fear is categorising judgment as being brought on
by fearing!! Because I don’t fear
fearing or of expressing any part of the ego in any way I haven’t judged these
ego traits of being bad or unbecoming in any way, I haven’t judged fear as
being bad so it’s really not really categorising anything into something separate
to something good for example. Judgement
comes about by separating and categorising fear as being just bad that can only
give us bad feelings.
Through some of these spiritually orientated books and
workshops, we are trained to separate good from bad which is dictated by our
feeling of good and bad, separating good feelings from bad feelings for
starters is of judgement. The more we separate these ego traits and feelings the
more of the ego we have become not less mainly because we are just as
judgemental as ever. Yes it’s hard not to separate human traits
that give us good feeling from bad feelings, at this point we should ask
ourselves why is this so hard not to do? This is where fear comes into the equation
again, we fear feeling bad that is why so many spiritually aware people are
using spirituality to feel good. Yes we
are sick of feeling bad only because we haven’t faced our fears and yes we feel
better when we feel good instead of bad however we are still fearing and separating
one human trait form the other thus categorising them as being either bad or
good which again brings us back to judgement brought on by fearing. It’s a vicious circle that a lot of us have
gotten ourselves in however there is a simple answer, embrace fear!!
Embracing any ego trait that we fear of expressing in any
way will instantly diminish any bad feelings of these feared traits, we will also
become a lot less judgemental only because we quite automatically stop categorising
these traits as something opposite to other human traits.
The following links are a good read on this topic.
Extract: If the bad news is that fear never goes
away, the good news is that it gets easier to work through and walk through
with practice. With that knowledge, you can stop trying to end fear and just
get on with whatever you are scared to do or experience.
Extract: Today I’m going to ask you to be open to the
idea of embracing fear. I say embrace
fear…embrace it lovingly, gratefully, joyfully…for when you embrace fear, you
are disavowing it of its Power…you are dissolving it, bit by bit, until one day
that big, impenetrable barrier of Fear no longer exists. In its place is the
change that your heart has been longing for.
Thank you... i understand now how to conquer my fear... seems so simple when i think about it... its important that i saw this tomigjt.
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